tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1365244084462704027.post1283555359809041309..comments2024-03-27T12:08:02.812+00:00Comments on THE SMALL THINGS: SundayTania Kindersleyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/18355967725006605825noreply@blogger.comBlogger19125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1365244084462704027.post-54481213852505142502012-05-08T22:12:51.371+01:002012-05-08T22:12:51.371+01:00Sorry I'm late - time in my lovely lakes and I...Sorry I'm late - time in my lovely lakes and I only got online to do a swift upload of blog photos for the in-laws. I have wondered and waited all these months about the Duchess, I wasn't sure if you'd (completely understandably) decided to keep private your memorial/burial of her. I know how painful, how utterly utterly heartbreaking it is...we cried into the soil as we buried Fig's ashes under his beautiful rose tree, that plus the symmetry of your Dad's anniversary, what a time you must have had...sending so much love and great big hugs. <br />And the person who is making you miserable? Shall we send the boys round?<br />Anne.xStripeycathttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02939664718135123631noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1365244084462704027.post-27898884567253025802012-05-08T09:38:24.366+01:002012-05-08T09:38:24.366+01:00What a beautiful tree you have for the Duchess - w...What a beautiful tree you have for the Duchess - what kind of apple tree is it?<br /><br />I'm glad you had a good day, and had family there.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1365244084462704027.post-50337238247409141072012-05-07T20:54:56.552+01:002012-05-07T20:54:56.552+01:00As always happy to drop by so as to be reduced to ...As always happy to drop by so as to be reduced to tears. again.<br /><br />Stop writing so well.<br /><br />And I am sorry for your losses.<br /><br />xo Janeflwrjanehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14905305551745652868noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1365244084462704027.post-18879450657408947992012-05-07T17:07:32.482+01:002012-05-07T17:07:32.482+01:00Blessings, and hugs, and love to you and yours.Blessings, and hugs, and love to you and yours.Marchelinehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11201825708442679157noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1365244084462704027.post-64559089913878254042012-05-07T13:14:36.087+01:002012-05-07T13:14:36.087+01:00Great God above, woman, be careful what you write!...Great God above, woman, be careful what you write! Like others who've commented I nearly had heart failure when I read 'I buried my dog'. Have you no thought for your readers?<br />Keep on keeping on, good to have you back. Lots of love.Deborahnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1365244084462704027.post-44094989714109913242012-05-07T11:34:01.411+01:002012-05-07T11:34:01.411+01:00Anonymous; One of my favourite quotations is attri...Anonymous; One of my favourite quotations is attributed to Eleanor Roosevelt; No-one can make us feel inferior without our permission. Used to have it on the wall of my teaching room for all my students to ponder. Seems to fit your story.<br /><br />Tania, so glad your Wake for The Duchess was just what you wanted and needed, including the timing. May her apple tree thrive and its fruit bring you joy.<br /><br />As for the horrid person, can I suggest you write one or two of those letters in long hand, on paper and then burn them with great relish. Used to work for me when getting over an ex or coping with a difficult boss!Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13702475308562601190noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1365244084462704027.post-47630357661317307432012-05-07T10:01:38.682+01:002012-05-07T10:01:38.682+01:00So glad you are back. The ceremony for the Duchess...So glad you are back. The ceremony for the Duchess sounds absolutely beautiful. I don't know the detail of your Horrible Person situation but if it is any help I had a Horrible Person once and the best advice I got was from my very wise, seen-it-all therapist who simply said: why do you give her so much power? It was quite tough to think it through, I really felt she had an enormous amount, but slowly I began to see that if I could stop minding about the things she was threatening to harm -realise that if they were that fragile, they probably weren't worth having - I did come to stop fearing her. In the end, the chief harm the Horrible Person is doing is to themselves. The fact is, all the love and goodness you have scattered about your life will ultimately triumph however much ammunition somebody seems to have. Anyway I really hope it resolves as you deserve. RachelAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1365244084462704027.post-76936095715122201052012-05-07T09:09:57.781+01:002012-05-07T09:09:57.781+01:00I love the comment above about the protective barr...I love the comment above about the protective barrier of positive thoughts - that is *exactly* what you have. Though the idea of a militant band of Dear Readers is brilliant, and would probably be accurate if we had any idea who this person is! So we'll stick with the positive thoughts for now and I hope that is of some comfort. <br /><br />I understand the symmetry, and how that might have brought some 'rightness' to a very difficult day. We scattered my father's ashes one year after he died, more through convenience than by design as that was when the family was together. But it did feel right. A year passing does feel like it brings you back to where you were, so it felt right to acknowledge that. I do hope that Thursday felt 'right' for you, however hard it also was.Hannahnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1365244084462704027.post-26148757490052318622012-05-06T23:50:07.339+01:002012-05-06T23:50:07.339+01:00Gosh, my first thought was Pigeon...my heart dropp...Gosh, my first thought was Pigeon...my heart dropped.<br /><br />Your photographs are absolutely beautiful....your views are incredible and Pigeon is just the most gorgeous dog.<br /><br />Today must have been very hard for you....sending you much love Tania XX<br /><br />PS I love the name Myfanway....my grandma used to sing that song to me, it reminds me of her always (my family are all Welsh :))Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07435722126028910012noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1365244084462704027.post-74118037234291090042012-05-06T23:05:50.138+01:002012-05-06T23:05:50.138+01:00Beautiful, beautiful pictures. So lovely to have y...Beautiful, beautiful pictures. So lovely to have you all back :)<br />Take best care xxxEmnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1365244084462704027.post-13203061829597903932012-05-06T22:59:03.426+01:002012-05-06T22:59:03.426+01:00Very good to have you back. Like the others, must...Very good to have you back. Like the others, must admit that your opening words made my eyes well up, fearing it was the Pigeon. Your words about how she seemed to reproach you for the weather were very welcome. Hope your ceremony--and the champagne--brought some measure of peace.<br /><br />How do you pronounce Myfanwy? The Welsh have such a creative language. ;-)<br /><br />BirdAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1365244084462704027.post-2082665689234286232012-05-06T21:41:45.971+01:002012-05-06T21:41:45.971+01:00Good to have you back - I missed having your post ...Good to have you back - I missed having your post to read first thing in the morning over my porridge. I also had a horrible feeling that it was the Pigeon you were talking about so it was a great relief to find that it wasn't.<br /><br />No sunshine down here either.Susan Heatherhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14400003572211042194noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1365244084462704027.post-42474168697907409142012-05-06T20:39:35.427+01:002012-05-06T20:39:35.427+01:00Good to have you back. What is one horrible assho...Good to have you back. What is one horrible asshole ( sorry about the language - or not ) compared to all of us who send our love and support. Consider yourself surrounded by a protective barrier of positive thoughts.<br /> <br />I think it is wonderful that you play with Red. Thinking outside the box and spending time together doing all kinds of unexpected things build a relationship so much stronger than just riding and grooming. Red is a very lucky girl to have you and the sweet little white one. You have many beautiful years of trust and companionship to look forward to.<br /><br />Would send some sunshine from Finland but we don't seem to have enough to share. Too early for our apple trees to do more than dream of flowers.niinpƤ niin...https://www.blogger.com/profile/12766187679812782244noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1365244084462704027.post-73643405257911068762012-05-06T20:18:08.048+01:002012-05-06T20:18:08.048+01:00Welcome back, all of you. Red is lovely, the Pige...Welcome back, all of you. Red is lovely, the Pigeon beautiful, Myfanwy sturdy and the spring countryside welcome.Joanne Noragonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09834682329952369721noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1365244084462704027.post-43089266468197340622012-05-06T18:53:09.857+01:002012-05-06T18:53:09.857+01:00I saw the first line & my heart went into my t...I saw the first line & my heart went into my throat. I thought you were talking about the Pigeon (OMG! NO! NO!)! (That'll teach me to "skim" read!)<br /><br />Visiting family in Florida, doing a lot of ruminating and came across the following, from life coach Martha Beck in an article (or book? Not sure):<br />"Every time life brings you to a crossroads from the tiniest to the most immense, go TOWARD LOVE (caps mine), not away from fear.<br />"Nothing based on fear -- but everything based on love -- is worth doing."<br />XX Pat<br /><br />PS It was the late great folksinger (& incredible woman) Malvina Reynolds who told people to plant an apple tree for her when she was gone...Pat (in Belgium)https://www.blogger.com/profile/02367089351412953926noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1365244084462704027.post-15406521902809366792012-05-06T17:25:26.413+01:002012-05-06T17:25:26.413+01:00"It was the same day a year ago that I buried..."It was the same day a year ago that I buried my father, so there was some symmetry in that."<br />Yes, I understand that. People say the loss of someone gets easier with time but actually, sometimes it feels so and other times it doesn't. It's like taking the scenic route. But it's good that you're back.Jennytchttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13621488409334115930noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1365244084462704027.post-89780895471052102032012-05-06T17:17:20.191+01:002012-05-06T17:17:20.191+01:00Hi Tania. Welcome back! You have been missed dur...Hi Tania. Welcome back! You have been missed during your break. Yesterday while reading through my blog feeds I just kept checking back feeling like I was missing something. Finally I realized it was your blog I was unconsciously looking for. News about you, Pigeon, Red, and the new pony were a bright spot that was gone from my day... I agree with Cassie that the Horrible person would become the focus of your Dear Readers negative energy if we knew where to direct it. In the meantime, know that you are the focus of our good and positive thoughts. The wild garden and apple tree are a wonderful tribute to the Duchess. All the best, VivianVivianhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10399691377656902919noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1365244084462704027.post-60358576250370744562012-05-06T17:15:51.345+01:002012-05-06T17:15:51.345+01:00Hi Tania. Welcome back! You have been missed dur...Hi Tania. Welcome back! You have been missed during your break. Yesterday while reading through my blog feeds I just kept checking back feeling like I was missing something. Finally I realized it was your blog I was unconsciously looking for. News about you, Pigeon, Red, and the new pony were a bright spot that was gone from my day... I agree with Cassie that the Horrible person would become the focus of your Dear Readers negative energy if we knew where to direct it. In the meantime, know that you are the focus of our good and positive thoughts. The wild garden and apple tree are a wonderful tribute to the Duchess. All the best, VivianVivianhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10399691377656902919noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1365244084462704027.post-15569998650478873702012-05-06T16:57:18.683+01:002012-05-06T16:57:18.683+01:00Welcome back, and I am glad you were able to drink...Welcome back, and I am glad you were able to drink champagne. And how, how can a horrible person do horrible things to you??? When you give so much that is good to so many? (I suspect that one clue to identity would result in a fatwah being taken out on them by the Dear Readers.)<br /><br />The Duchess tree is beautiful, and I love the colours in the pot table.<br /><br />Sending good and comforting thoughts across the miles from East Anglia. xxxCassiehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07531093715654362821noreply@blogger.com