tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1365244084462704027.post179306768608264204..comments2024-03-28T19:03:24.043+00:00Comments on THE SMALL THINGS: Of goats and mountains and climbsTania Kindersleyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/18355967725006605825noreply@blogger.comBlogger14125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1365244084462704027.post-36061563475361064252012-01-28T17:35:26.352+00:002012-01-28T17:35:26.352+00:00Marcheline - this is such a beautiful, thoughtful,...Marcheline - this is such a beautiful, thoughtful, complex comment. And so true. Thank you.Tania Kindersleyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18355967725006605825noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1365244084462704027.post-64598284660230542752012-01-28T17:34:37.822+00:002012-01-28T17:34:37.822+00:00Pat and Marcheline - THANK YOU. As usual, the Dear...Pat and Marcheline - THANK YOU. As usual, the Dear Readers come up trumps.Tania Kindersleyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18355967725006605825noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1365244084462704027.post-36353421917001102332012-01-28T17:33:54.279+00:002012-01-28T17:33:54.279+00:00LouLou - oh yes, all of those. I especially like t...LouLou - oh yes, all of those. I especially like the growing of things.Tania Kindersleyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18355967725006605825noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1365244084462704027.post-50547567869377885322012-01-28T16:28:03.345+00:002012-01-28T16:28:03.345+00:00Regarding your actual post, which is so much more ...Regarding your actual post, which is so much more worthy of consideration and time than some distractions which nearly derailed me...<br /><br />Yes, remembering is sort of a responsibility. Something one should do. My father died on Valentine's Day in 2008, and since then I have come to realize how very many ways remembering can make you feel, depending on when and how the thoughts hit you. <br /><br />Some memories sneak up on me like ninjas - a song playing in the grocery store, and WHAM, I'm teary-eyed. Some memories I sit and try to bring forward, from when I was very small. Those are warm and bright, and make me smile. <br /><br />Some memories are not welcome, but they are true memories all the same - perhaps an argument or a time when my father said an unkind word or did something wrong. These I just try to let flow like water, like watching a movie, acknowledge that they happened, but make no further judgment on the episode. <br /><br />I think the most important lesson I've learned from mourning is that we need to say everything there is to be said, get everything straightened out, at the moment it happens. Don't let things go by or think that they will get sorted later. Once someone is dead, there is no more discussion. All those things swept under the rug remain. They don't disintegrate, they are not biodegradable like the body. So no matter how uncomfortable it may be, issues need to be dealt with while people are still alive, whether it's telling someone you love them or telling someone that you have a problem with them, or both. <br /><br />It's a rather hard lesson, that unsaid words remain behind - and they tend to live in your mattress, their sharp bits poking you in the back when all you want to do is sleep.Marchelinehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11201825708442679157noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1365244084462704027.post-73599473541819093422012-01-28T16:14:39.923+00:002012-01-28T16:14:39.923+00:00This jackwagon has been posting this same exact po...This jackwagon has been posting this same exact post all over the blogiverse for years... I think the first time I saw it was 2006 or so. He obviously either has no luck getting dates and is bitter, or he's running one of those foreign mail-order bride sites and trying to drum up business.<br /><br />Keep calm, and carry on. <br /><br />- MarchelineAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1365244084462704027.post-11810254453508683892012-01-28T15:37:53.321+00:002012-01-28T15:37:53.321+00:00BRAVO!BRAVO!Pat (in Belgium)https://www.blogger.com/profile/02367089351412953926noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1365244084462704027.post-70081466493760215432012-01-28T12:31:11.080+00:002012-01-28T12:31:11.080+00:00Lovely post yesterday Tania. I could only add spe...Lovely post yesterday Tania. I could only add spend time with small children, grow things, and walking outdoors as often as possible.LouLounoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1365244084462704027.post-80476585912182919722012-01-28T01:49:34.943+00:002012-01-28T01:49:34.943+00:00Deep Sea - I can't tell you how lovely it is t...Deep Sea - I can't tell you how lovely it is to have a Dear Reader back after a gap. :)Tania Kindersleyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18355967725006605825noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1365244084462704027.post-34917479612889172692012-01-28T01:49:00.450+00:002012-01-28T01:49:00.450+00:00Oh, Anon - thinking of you and the sister and the ...Oh, Anon - thinking of you and the sister and the mascara. :)Tania Kindersleyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18355967725006605825noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1365244084462704027.post-57274725049644266862012-01-28T01:47:58.359+00:002012-01-28T01:47:58.359+00:00Anon - I could argue with you all day long. But in...Anon - I could argue with you all day long. But instead I am merely going to say: you have found your way to the wrong blog. I would say, though, that if you are going to make such sweeping generalisations, you should at least sign your own name to them.Tania Kindersleyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18355967725006605825noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1365244084462704027.post-89444237364835595912012-01-28T01:44:10.807+00:002012-01-28T01:44:10.807+00:00Nancy - love the meadow Maddow idea. And so please...Nancy - love the meadow Maddow idea. And so pleased you like the Pigeon with her ball. :)Tania Kindersleyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18355967725006605825noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1365244084462704027.post-20595473496036422322012-01-28T00:06:50.139+00:002012-01-28T00:06:50.139+00:00Isn't it fun checking the stats... it always a...Isn't it fun checking the stats... it always amazes me when someone from Iran say, has read my blog. And people are consistently finding me by googling motocross things, only because I blogged about it - one time!<br /><br />My guess is that the person who typed Maddow was perhaps trying to type meadow.<br /><br />Pigeon really does look very happy with her new ball.Nancy Lettshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07181780512702116532noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1365244084462704027.post-38862805342840496472012-01-27T20:10:19.909+00:002012-01-27T20:10:19.909+00:00Back to your blog after a bit of a gap...and my, w...Back to your blog after a bit of a gap...and my, whay amazing photographs!! Really beautiful...the trees, the colours, the shade, the light..sigh. You do live in a beautiful part of the world.D Narukahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15034109746085819659noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1365244084462704027.post-9049811090245783402012-01-27T17:24:33.432+00:002012-01-27T17:24:33.432+00:00just to say that i loved yesterday's post, and...just to say that i loved yesterday's post, and oh the photos, fabulous - both yesterday and today. am looking forward to possibly snow-filled photos next week! have a lovely weekend Tania, and thank you for the lovely posts this week. i hear you on the photo and loss stuff too, one of these days i'll be able to look at the photo of the sister without thinking "damn, this mascara runs"...i could, of course, just change the mascara...Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com